Because he's gay, he can't remain faithful to his wife?
“With much pain and tears, together with my beloved wife, I have come to understand that I could walk my path with the greatest strength, with the greatest peace in my heart, with the greatest healing and wholeness, when I finally acknowledged that I am a gay man. Sadly, for us this means that Batya and I can no longer remain married, despite our fidelity throughout our marriage and our abiding friendship and love. As our divorce is not born of rancor, we pray that together with our children we will remain bound by a brit mishpachah, a covenant of family.”I think this is ludicrous, mainly because he apparently isn't seeking any therapy or anything to repair his mentality. Yet this is a mindset that's prevailed for a time in the USA and elsewhere, that being homosexual means you cannot be faithful to somebody of the opposite sex or marry them. It's insulting to the intellect and sets a poor example, of men and women who just up and abandon their opposite sex spouses all because they feel homosexuality is the only path they know and cannot change that in any way, and the only lifestyle/mentality they wish to lead. Harry Maryles says:
Nor do I believe that changing one’s sexual orientation is in any way a practical solution – if it is even possible. Which I tend to doubt (except in cases where people aren’t sure about their sexual identity or are bi-sexual). I do not expect Rabbi Steinlauf to change. And I applaud him for his honesty and integrity in coming out as gay.Sure, that's an honest thing to do, but if he won't seek psychological aid and feels he must be part of a different crowd - literally - then Steinlauf's admittal accomplishes nothing. It's regrettable Maryles is taking such a weak position and undermining the whole psychology industry - indeed, that seems to be the whole point of legitimizing homosexuality, so that psychology will be rendered meaningless.
The Conservative movement - or at least those congregations supporting homosexuality today - are not helping by failing to argue why Steinlauf should try therapy to change his situation. I would think it's a lot easier than it looks for a man to stare at big breasts on a chick and realize what's so amazing, attractive and even arty about them. Maybe he should try that and see how well he does.